you tell me you don’t “get” it. your smile curls up at the edges. “Why don’t people just be happy?” you ask, sticking your fork into our takeout food box. “It’s that simple,” you say. I close my eyes and try to explain.

picture the person you hate most in this universe. you hate their crooked smile and their annoying voice and their little habits that get on your nerves. you hate everything they do and everything they are and yet everyone’s always talking about how great this person is - as if nobody else can see something you can. this person makes you mean. this person makes you angry. you’re generally kind and nice to everyone else - but it’s this one piece of trash you just can’t handle.

you are assigned this person as your responsibility. you are in charge of their life and their success. you have to do their homework and get them out of bed and keep their friendships going. you have to make sure their parents are happy and make sure they get to school on time and make sure they fulfill all their extracurriculars. you have to feed them right and pay attention to their needs and somehow, despite the fact you hate them, you are told to make them happy.

you don’t want to do any of these things.

this person is your archenemy. they’re really sweet on the surface, but you know better. they are a liar, a cheat, a cruel person - and yet you have to put in all of this effort to keep their life moving. no reward, nothing.

you know this person doesn’t deserve anything they get so maybe you start to sabotage them. first it’s their homework because it’s just not important and nobody notices when they don’t turn it in. then it’s the clubs they wanted to be in. you’re too tired to make them stay after school so you start heading home just so you don’t have to deal. you stop working so hard on those friendships, start going for days without speaking to anyone. when nobody calls you out for it, you let more and more slide until the only thing this person has left is their body and themselves. and what do you do when you can’t hurt their lives anymore? you hurt them.

the thing is, if you’re me, if you’re battling the same thing I am - that person I hate so much? that person I have to deal with every single day no matter how hard it gets? that person everyone says “they’re so lovely why would you hate them,” that person I know should have nothing, that person I despise more than I could express?

That person is my own shitty self.

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Do you ever just feel embarassment on behalf of a character?


When your favorite character does something stupid:



When your favorite character says something sexist/bigoted:




When your favorite character rapes someone:




I’m so disgusted with Jaime’s character.  And with NCW answering ‘yes and no’ to the question ‘is it rape’.  I can’t even reblog gifs of Jaime anymore.  or read Jaime/brienne fanfiction. 

I think we all need to agree that Jaime is a rapist, whether we want to or not.  please for the love of god do not forget about this scene and pretend that it never happened.  IT HAPPENED !! and we need to remember it and be angry about it cause it SHOULD NOT HAVE HAPPENED.

He raped Cersei in the show.  He also raped her in the books.  if you have any questions about what consent looks like please watch this amazing, informative and entertaining video by Laci Green explaining what consent is

PLEASE WATCH THE WHOLE THING.  It will open many people’s eyes to what rape, sexual coersion and sexual assault look and sound like (all three things which Jaime did)

To put it simply Jaime is rapist AND a hypocrite. 

Yes i do believe he is one of the most feminist characters on the show and i believe he hates rape and see’s women as their own individual person not to be used and abused by men.  But i also believe Jaime sees Cersei; his lover and twin sister, as an extension of himself.  He doesn’t see her as his possession but as his mirror.  Which is why i think it was justifiable in his mind.  Cersei is apart of him.  They are one.  Which means he doesn’t see her as something separate from him.  Someone who might not want the same things he wants.  Which is why it doesn’t enter his mind to stop. 


Again please do not forget this scene for the sake of upholding that white knightly image you have of Jaime.  He committed an atrocious crime and he needs to be held accountable.  Do not forget this deed for the sake of who you ship him with.

This is how many people in the real world get away with rape.  People brush it off because they’re really a ‘good’ person, or they have done ‘great’ things or they’re not ‘really like that’.  the excuses go on and on. 

Please for the sake of victims of rape culture do not excuse, justify or forget Jaime’s actions.

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catching up on GoT. Had to pause the episode to do this.

I dont know what to call this. OOC Jaime? Hypocritical Jaime? the “Jaime Lannister is not amused by your bullshit writing, HBO” meme? JAIMEME? call what you like, this was freakin dumb.

not only was all this in the show but it was also consensual in the books and I WOULD assume they pulled this lameness in an attempt to sever Cersei and Jaime’s relationship fast BUT THEY’D ALREADY GOT TO A GREAT START WITH THAT WHEN HE FIRST RETURNED SO NO.

This is off topic here. This is the section for comments about Junot Diaz and Anne Perry and the Cocteau’s author program.

Since a lot of people have been emailing me about this, however, I will reply… but please, take any further discussion of the show to one of the myriad on-line forums devoted to that. I do not want long detailed dissections and debates about the TV series here on my blog.

As for your question… I think the “butterfly effect” that I have spoken of so often was at work here. In the novels, Jaime is not present at Joffrey’s death, and indeed, Cersei has been fearful that he is dead himself, that she has lost both the son and the father/ lover/ brother. And then suddenly Jaime is there before her. Maimed and changed, but Jaime nonetheless. Though the time and place is wildly inappropriate and Cersei is fearful of discovery, she is as hungry for him as he is for her.

The whole dynamic is different in the show, where Jaime has been back for weeks at the least, maybe longer, and he and Cersei have been in each other’s company on numerous occasions, often quarreling. The setting is the same, but neither character is in the same place as in the books, which may be why Dan & David played the sept out differently. But that’s just my surmise; we never discussed this scene, to the best of my recollection.

Also, I was writing the scene from Jaime’s POV, so the reader is inside his head, hearing his thoughts. On the TV show, the camera is necessarily external. You don’t know what anyone is thinking or feeling, just what they are saying and doing.

If the show had retained some of Cersei’s dialogue from the books, it might have left a somewhat different impression — but that dialogue was very much shaped by the circumstances of the books, delivered by a woman who is seeing her lover again for the first time after a long while apart during which she feared he was dead. I am not sure it would have worked with the new timeline.

That’s really all I can say on this issue. The scene was always intended to be disturbing… but I do regret if it has disturbed people for the wrong reasons.

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The show is the show, and not the books. But it still seems a strange decision, and a cheap sort of drama, to throw all the redemption teasing they’ve done for Jaime (they fooled me, remember? Two weeks ago I wrote an article about how Jaime was turning it all around) out the window just to victimize yet another woman.

This would be a big deal on its own, but it’s not the first time David Benioff and Dan Weiss have changed a scene so that it specifically victimizes a woman. At the end of season two, Stannis Baratheon chokes Melisandre of Asshai because he lost a big battle (not in the books). Last season, Ros was forced into an abusive sex scene with Joffrey (scene not in the books, character named Ros not in the books). Then, Ros’s storyline ends with her being used as target practice by Joffrey for the crime of inconveniencing Littlefinger. The last shot of her in the episode “The Climb” is her posed in a sexualized manner, feathered with crossbow bolts.

Taken one at a time, any of these changes can be seen as a choice the writers have made. Stacked all together like that, and you start to see a troubling trend that the show’s creators are stumbling all over themselves to explain.

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[finishes watching ep 3]

[closes Jaime Lannister tabs]

[opens tabs for Oberyn Martell] 

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just want to raise a glass for oberyn for being one of the few characters who is actually disgusted and enraged by rape and the rape culture of westeros while being non-white, non-het, and not a huge piece of crap towards bastards and non-noble ppl





It’s like he can’t operate outside of being a huge douche bag if she isn’t around

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let’s just say I am not impressed at all about what he said in that interview.  It was rape.  no excuses.


As a huge Jaime x Brienne shipper, I’m going to have to ask show!Jaime to stay 38,952,895,809,400 feet away from Brienne of Tarth.


if an episode of game of thrones ends with daenerys, i want to run outside and conquer cities and empower women and anyone without privilege and free the working class from the bonds of society and feed the hungry and cure cancer and fuck racism and SHIT WHEN DO I START

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